 On Halloween morning this year, I considered whether or not I should wear a costume to my Zumba class.
At first, it seemed like an inconsequential decision. Wear one, don't wear one, who really cares, right??!! But as the day transpired, I realized there were a couple of things that did feel important about my eventual decision to don a little devil outfit and head to class.
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In a previous post, I talked about how fear of others’ judgement can get in the way of enjoying the present moment.
That piece also touched on how judging others can be a protective strategy, an attempt to keep ourselves from looking at things that feel scary or shameful. Judgement can also be a way of trying to make ourselves less vulnerable so that, theoretically, we can't be let down or rejected. When we judge others, we create a barrier which makes it difficult to experience the connection we so desperately crave. Very often we turn that judgement around to ourselves. At times, self-judgment can be another kind of protective strategy: if I criticize myself before others do, I can’t be hurt.* *Note: This does not actually work. Admit something:
After working with people for many years, certain universal truths began to reveal themselves.
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