Recently, I shared a post on Instagram and Facebook about how therapists are imperfect humans too. It seemed to resonate with a lot of people so I thought I would add it here as well.
Feel free to leave any questions or comments below. And if you know anyone who might benefit from this reminder, please share...
Thanks for reading.
In my training last weekend, I got to confront some of my work-in-progress-ness. It felt like a good a time to share this reminder.
Your therapist is not perfect. She is human.
One day it occurred to me that I no longer knew how to answer when people asked, "how are you?"
I don't know when it happened exactly. All I know is that this ordinary, everyday question was quite literally stopping me in my tracks.
A friend or coworker who I hadn’t seen in a while would enthusiastically ask, “how are you?!” and I would become speechless (which if you know me, you know that's really saying something).
I would pause waiting for the right words to appear.
I knew it had been a while since my last blog post...but I was SHOCKED AND APPALLED when I saw that the last time I wrote was January.
Where have I been?! What have I been doing?! (I mean besides: seeing clients, sleeping, hanging out with friends and family, petting my cats, watching TV, doing laundry, going to Zumba, reading, eating, etc...)
Well, what happened was...
When I first started running, it was brutal.
Let's be honest, it still is. I am perpetually falling out of this habit. Every time I return after a long break, it feels almost as hard as it did when I started.
I never wanted to be a runner. I didn't understand why people would voluntarily subject themselves to this particular brand of torture.
Then one day, for reasons I don't fully understand, I wanted to try.
Procrastination gets a bad rap.
Sure, it has its faults, but when we take a closer look, it's not so black and white.
Here are four reasons why procrastination isn't always all bad.
1. Procrastinating one task can motivate us to complete another.
Perhaps you can relate to this experience: You have something you are avoiding. You will do anything to not do That Thing!
Yes...even things that you were previously procrastinating doing!
Example: You really need to clean out that garage. I mean, really.
You haven't even opened some of those boxes in ten years. Do you really need those mismatched dishes? Those strings of old broken Christmas lights? Five dozen issues of National Geographic for that collage you are sure you will start one day?
It feels like such a daunting project. You can't bring yourself to even begin. Then one day...
fara tucker, lcsw
therapist~consultant~teacher in Portland, Oregon