Sometimes you're quoted in an article and no one tells you. I just stumbled upon (aka found when Googling myself...) this LIVESTRONG article from March 2018 that used a couple of my quotes.
10 Ways to Shut Up Your Inner Critic for Good
You'll find me on slide #2 and #8, but I'd recommend checking out all 10 slides for great ideas about dealing with the pesky inner critic that lives in all of us.
This BuzzFeed article offers strategies from a handful of coaches, social workers, and therapists (including me!) to help you deal with the Judgy McJudgeFace that lives inside us.
On Halloween morning this year, I considered whether or not I should wear a costume to my Zumba class.
At first, it seemed like an inconsequential decision.
Wear one, don't wear one, who really cares, right??!!
But as the day transpired, I realized there were a couple of things that did feel important about my eventual decision to don a little devil outfit and head to class.
Check out this Bustle piece about common thoughts that can have a negative impact on your well being. It includes examples from therapists, including yours truly.
If you recognize any of these, or struggle with toxic thoughts that aren't on this list, you are not alone! We all think thoughts from time to time that can cause us harm.
In a previous post, I talked about how fear of others’ judgement can get in the way of enjoying the present moment.
That piece also touched on how judging others can be a protective strategy, an attempt to keep ourselves from looking at things that feel scary or shameful. Judgement can also be a way of trying to make ourselves less vulnerable so that, theoretically, we can't be let down or rejected.
When we judge others, we create a barrier which makes it difficult to experience the connection we so desperately crave.
Very often we turn that judgement around to ourselves.
At times, self-judgment can be another kind of protective strategy: if I criticize myself before others do, I can’t be hurt.*
*Note: This does not actually work.
fara tucker, lcsw
therapist~consultant~teacher in Portland, Oregon