“Only in the agony of parting do we look into the depths of love.” -George Eliot
Recently I had to say goodbye.
Like many goodbyes, this one was made up of small and big goodbyes all tangled up into and born out of a single event.
I left my job as Dean of Students at East West College after six years.
As a social-worker-therapist-type-person, you might assume that I am comfortable "sitting with" painful, vulnerable and complex feelings.
If you assume this about me, you would be correct, and...I am still a human being!
Saying goodbye after six years, much less saying goodbye over and over again to many people, multiples times, over weeks and months was really tough.
It was uncomfortable and exhausting and hard, and it was a profoundly rich and sacred opportunity.
At some point in the midst of all of this, I had a thought...
I only look backwards to see how far I've come: how to let go of the past and how it can move us forward
Recently I contributed to anarticle about how we relate to the past.
This piece, written by holistic health coach Amy Height, examines how and why getting stuck in the past can be problematic; ways of mindfully bringing ourselves back to the present; and how and when looking back can be useful.
Check it out here.
fara tucker, lcsw
therapist~consultant~teacher in Portland, Oregon