Check out this Bustle piece about common thoughts that can have a negative impact on your well being. It includes examples from therapists, including yours truly.
If you recognize any of these, or struggle with toxic thoughts that aren't on this list, you are not alone! We all think thoughts from time to time that can cause us harm.
The real danger is when these types of thoughts hang around a lot. When we think harmful thoughts constantly or frequently, they begin to affect how we see ourselves in a profound way.
The best first step is to bring awareness to them. Once we see them, they already have less power. When we don't notice them, we can't question whether they are true and we can't consider the impact that thinking them is having on our mental health.
But if we start to catch ourselves thinking these harmful thoughts, we can examine them. We can consider whether it's possible they aren't true.
Even really compelling thoughts start to fall apart when we take a closer look. Are there times when the thought isn't true?
Check out my post about kicking the habit of self-criticism for a more in depth look at how to deal with these harmful thoughts so that they don't run (or ruin) our lives.
fara tucker, lcsw
therapist and teacher in Portland, Oregon